Dating websites not working for me
Let me tell you: they’ve all been exceedingly average.
I’m not saying I got NOTHING out of it (you know what I’m talking about ;-), but over these handful of dates, we produced fewer sparks than you would trying to start a fire with two pieces of fruit.
And the dating website have sent you a few emails enticing you back – time to give this one another go. After all, you’ve come to terms with the fact that the other person is probably as bored as you, and will thank you for giving them an excuse to leave.
Worse, is there something wrong with Turns out there is something wrong with meeting people in bars: it doesn’t work. Indifference You’ve been on enough bad dates to work out how to get out of them quickly, and you’ve stopped staying on bad dates just for the sake of it.
Every time I go through someone's profile photos — which is all I really have to judge them on — I find myself checking their shirt collar, shoe choices, sunglasses and location choice. The method of swiping through potential matches doesn't really seem to work for women and maybe that's my real issue with online dating: It’s not more fun, and it doesn’t feel safer, than being in a bar.
By the time I get to the fifth photo, my scrutiny is on such a high alert, I feel confident guessing what kind of whiskey they order at the bar. There is no way to respond to body language, new circumstances or the environment.
Sure, there’s a slight chance you’ll meet a crazy person. If you are, then you’ve won – if not, then we’d like to draw your attention to the ‘block’ button. A message from someone you actually like (otherwise known as: false hope) Among the ‘Welcome to your account’ messages from the website (and the aforementioned naked photos) there will eventually be an email from someone who floats your boat/rocks your socks/flips your pancake. The number of women in the work force continues to rise. People are staying single longer, but there’s still that hint of anxiety because they haven’t settled down yet—Better hurry, or all the good ones will be taken!Moreover, for people looking to find a soul mate, time is working against them on three different fronts: 1) As we get older, our vision of an ideal mate gets more narrowly defined; 2) As people continue to pair off, the field of eligibles dwindles; and 3) Every day you are fatter, uglier, and balder. Dating sites act as a filter to weed out the unwanted guys/gals, and for this reason, online dating has become too convenient to ignore. Because out at a bar, you might see 50 people of of the gender you’re into.So you’ve got to the point in life where online dating is an option. You used to think online dating was for weirdos but everyone’s doing it! If they’re a terrible person, there’s only one thing to do – fall into a hole in the ground. Rejection Yes, all your friends say you’re good looking, intelligent and funny. If you’re single, then you’ve probably had the ‘Hey, you should give online dating a go – my best friends met online and now they’re MARRIED! Surely this is just part of being an emotionally-mature, rational grown-up? Depending on which site you’re on (and if you’re on anything with ‘adult’ in the URL, then you’ve only got yourself to blame) you might have a few people who think it’s ok to send you nude photos. The last person who dumped you said they thought you were ‘great’. But you can’t win them all, and some of your messages might go unanswered, no matter how long you spent writing them.